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Noha Beshir's avatar

I feel the same way about my people, and it's beautiful to remember I'm not self-made.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

I’m glad we have each other 🫂

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Noha Beshir's avatar

Absolutely… What a beautiful space we’ve made.

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Tyler Donohue's avatar

The way I cried watching Daughters - my goodness. It was so beautifully filmed and such a powerful and important story.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Yes all of that 😭

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Moone's avatar

This was so precious to read and so reassuring. Knowing people have your back can boost you to do so much more for yourself and for them too!

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Ah thank you, that’s how I feel reading you’re writing too! And it’s real, just being able to process life with them is a gift

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Laura's avatar

This really resonated with me and came at the right time ❤️

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Alex Lewis's avatar

I’m so happy to hear that. I’m glad this essay could meet you where you are 🫶🏽

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Angèle's avatar

Beautiful, like a warm hug and a tight embrace.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

That’s very generous. Thank you, Angèle.

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Erin Crotty's avatar

Alex, what a gift of pen and heart you have. Thank you for sharing it with us.

From the early on stop-me-in-my-tracks line "Why have I been in so many cults?" ... to "I love being a part of something... it's okay for me to get lost in it, right?" ... to the people who encourage the pause ... the work/identity learnings from the Toni Morrison essay ... and "the ones who hold us down." This really caused me to stop and think in the greatest of ways. 🙏

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Alex Lewis's avatar

I’m so appreciative. Thank you for making the time to sit with this essay, and I’m glad it could meet you where you are and be something you were able to feel. It means the world. Thank you so much, Erin!

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QuYahni B Joseph's avatar

Just so beautifully described. As one who grew up without a father, I spent too much time in survival mode to realize that I missed having one; even though I had gotten to experience a loving stepdad until I was nearly 4.

It was in my 30s that I began to ache for “him;” not my stepdad, but my bio-dad, even though I did not know him and knew that he had done a horrible thing to my mother.

I reviewed all my behaviors and all the messes I was in and all the times I almost died and felt that things would have been different had I had all loving father throughout my childhood.

I say all this say that I felt all of this all over again while reading your post. Not that I ever stop feeling it, but it resonated this time with hope.

Thank you.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thank you for sharing this piece of your story with me. I’m glad these words could meet you where you are, even if to just feel what you’re feeling. I appreciate you making time to read.

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Claire Videau's avatar

I love how you express your emotions. This was a moving piece for me and so beautifully written.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thank you, Claire. I’m honored you made the time to read!

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Sarah J's avatar

Alex, this is too precious! I am fond of often overlooking my community and thinking I can do everything by myself. You've made me realise that this is one of the most normalised yet extremely harmful fallacies in our society. Exquisite pen sir!!!

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Aw thank you, Sarah! I'm with you. Harmful systems often push us to isolate ourselves, and it's easy to fall into that trap. But I'm grateful for the people who have reminded me that I can't do life alone.

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Maya's avatar

Wow, this is the first article I’ve read on Substack that has made me cry. I’m going to hug my people extra tightly today. Thank you so much for this🥹

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Alex Lewis's avatar

I’M HONORED 🥹🥰🤭☺️🥲🙂‍↕️ thank you!!!

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Dee Rambeau's avatar

Love this Alex. New to your newsletter. Ironically I’m writing about the idea of Home this week and I had identified that same essay by Toni Morrison.

I guess great minds 🤷🏻‍♂️☺️

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thank you, Dee! And that’s amazing, great minds indeed. Love that Toni Morrison essay so much!

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Dia Lupo's avatar

“A cult of our own consistency and care” sign me tf up yesterday 🥹

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Bring the Kool-Aid 🥤

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

Wow. This did not go where I expected it to. It was so much more -- which I should have expected! Thank you for reminding us it's about the love in our loves, received as well as given.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Antonia, hi!! Always a gift when you read and comment. Thank you so much for going on the journey with me, and I’m glad it was something you were able to connect with. I appreciate you. A reminder that there are people who care about our collective good.

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Antonia Malchik's avatar

Your words are a gift! And a reminder to me as well, of the same. 💖

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Paedra Nicole's avatar

Beautifully Brilliant! Phenomenal voiceover.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

Thank you!!! That’s so kind 🥹

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Paedra Nicole's avatar

…and so true🙂. You’re Welcome. I appreciate and am inspired by the way you write and think.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

🫂

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Elizabeth Grace Martinez's avatar

I’m thankful to have several very close friends that I’ve know for over 20 years. We support each other and hold each other accountable

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Alex Lewis's avatar

That’s beautiful, Elizabeth. It’s wonderful y’all have been able to remain close for that long.

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Robert the contemplative's avatar

I love you brother. this was a beautiful piece.

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Alex Lewis's avatar

I love you fam, thank you so much 🫂

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